Do you wish you could work less and play more? Are you so stuck in the rut you can't see a way out? Have you ever said I wish I had more time for me?
Well there is hope. First of all you have to be aware of your situation, have a strong desire to change and then take action.
Jackie's Story
Jackie is 31 yrs of age and the Business Development Manager for an insurance company.
She always arrived at work at 8.00 a.m. and never left the office before 6.30 p.m. most nights. She bemoaned the fact that work took over her life.
Through the process of coaching we discovered that the only reason Jackie didn't have a personal life was because she never planned to have one.
She realised she buried herself in her work needlessly. She avoided going home as she had nothing to look forward to. Jackie lived on her own, she wasn't in a relationship and had no hobbies. So she defined her purpose in life through her work. It made her feel worthwhile and wanted. Although her career was blossoming, Jackie was unhappy. In fact, she was lonely.
We worked on getting Jackie on purpose in her personal life.
Through the coaching process we concentrated on three key goals which would be achievable and realistic over a six month period. Why? Because that timeframe is long enough to achieve measurable results and make long term changes.
Jackie's main goal areas related to her career, health and fitness and relationships. This is what she came up with:
Career
Leave work by 5.00 p.m. each day.
Health and Fitness
To be able to wear my black skirt. (Jackie had put on so much weight that she couldn't do the zip up.)
Relationship
To be in a loving relationship.
There were a number of secondary goals, however these three were the key ones that Jackie was the most passionate about and was prepared to take action on.
Define the Goal
Once the goals were defined we then worked out the strategies to reach them and then the actions to take to achieve them.
Career - Leave work by 5.00 p.m. each day
We looked at Jackie's time management. I had her fill out our Weekly Planner which also can be used as a time sheet. We discovered she wasted at least two hours a day on unwanted interruptions and being unable to say 'no'. We showed her simple ways to plan her day more effectively and get more done.
Health and Fitness - To be able to wear my black skirt.
Jackie had no exercise routine and her diet was inadequate. Together we worked out the best solution for her physical activity which was to join the gym near her work. By attending the gym at 6.00 a.m. each morning she was able to bounce into work instead of dragging herself in.
In fact the gym was a double bonus as there were a few good relationship prospects who attended at that hour.
Jackie never planned what she would eat. In fact she didn't shop regularly and therefore would often grab fast food for lunch and dinner. By showing her healthier alternatives and planning time to shop, it was easy for her to improve her diet and overall well-being.
Relationship - To be in a loving relationship
Through the coaching process Jackie realised she would have to be proactive in this area and needed to meet more people. She had always wanted to do photography and enrolled in a TAFE short course. By doing this not only did she meet a nice unattached guy but fulfilled a deep seated need to do something creative in her life.
Once Jackie realised that she wanted to have a life and was focussed on her goals, everything changed. On her own she would most likely not have made any significant changes as it would have been too overwhelming and require her to move out of her comfort zone.
The fact that she was investing her own money in herself and had someone to be accountable to, made a huge impact on the results she achieve.
5 Simple Ways You Can Make More Time For Your Life
#1 Learn how to manage your time so you can be as effective as possible.
You can read books on time management, attend courses or the most effective way is to have a coach to work with you.
#2 Say "no"
You don't always have to say yes to everyone else's requests. You can say 'no'. Perhaps you need to learn how to be more assertive.
#3 Lighten your load
Wherever possible look at ways of delegating or outsourcing tasks to free up more of your time, i.e. at home have a cleaner or gardener. At work see who else can help to lighten your workload.
#4 Do similar things at the one time
Do all your errands in one trip. Visit clients on the one day. Allocate a block of time to return phone calls or respond to emails each day.
#5 Timetable Your Life
Plan in your diary when you will take time out for you. Maybe every lunchtime you'll go for a 30 minute walk or attend the gym three mornings a week, have a facial or massage fortnightly. If it's not in the diary chances are it won't happen.
The Final Word
Many people often float through life with no particular purpose. They'll make the excuse "I haven't got time". It's easy to say "I haven't got time" or "I'm too busy" to avoid having to change and stretch themselves. However, what is the alternative? Continually do the same thing and getting the same results or making changes and getting different results?
The choice is yours.
Have a great week,
Lorraine Pirihi
Lorraine Pirihi is Australia's Personal Productivity Specialist and Leading Life Coach. Her business The Office Organiser specialises in showing small business owners and managers, how to get organised at work so they can have a life! Lorraine is also a dynamic speaker and has produced many products including "How to Survive and Thrive at Work!"
To subscribe to her free ezine visit http://www.office-organiser.com.au This article may be reproduced providing it is published in it's entirety, including the author's bio and all links. For further information please contact Lorraine Pirihi
tidy up service Glenview ..Benjamin Franklin wrote: "If you want to enjoy one of... Read More
As I sit here in front of the computer... Read More
Most of us have a to-do list ? some of... Read More
You can lose, damage or waste some things in life,... Read More
According to a Miller Heiman 2003 Sales Effectiveness Study, over... Read More
"I find it interesting that the very cape I tried... Read More
As each day passes, and more and more things need... Read More
Does choosing which time we do an activity really make... Read More
In this fast and crazy world, we want to multi-task... Read More
Last week I had the privilege of spending some quality... Read More
When I sit down with a client to work on... Read More
When a good friend asked me to contribute a little... Read More
"It's just been one of those days?I can't seem to... Read More
A year and a half ago I was introduced to... Read More
I've divided my tips into two sections - 5 ways... Read More
We all know the harmful effects of overwork. People get... Read More
I'm sure we've all had the experience of having a... Read More
My job in Chicago began with three months of probation.I... Read More
Many of the world's most driven and successful people sleep... Read More
Setting goals is the easy part -- but sticking with... Read More
Vilfredo Pareto's Principle, or The "Pareto Principle," is more commonly... Read More
"Slaves to the clock" was the cover story in the... Read More
The Internet is increasingly becoming a major time killer for... Read More
In this world there is something more precious than gold.... Read More
If you're like most people, you want to get better... Read More
full-service cleaning Mundelein ..Time is inelastic. Despite what some of us persist in... Read More
There are two types of time killers in everyone's life.... Read More
Let's say that you have a software project that's under... Read More
Sometime ago, my lovely wife woke me up in the... Read More
Why waste your precious time working on tasks, which are... Read More
Having a home based business can be overwhelming. When you... Read More
If you operate any kind of home business, you must... Read More
This is one more article on "Organizing and Enjoying Your... Read More
Setting goals is the easy part -- but sticking with... Read More
Recently I've experienced a barrage of time wasters. Everything you... Read More
We all face decisions that involve doing things that affect... Read More
Today, it is hard to open an e-mail newsletter, a... Read More
Handle small emergencies fast: When a small emergency does pop... Read More
Where does your time go? We all know we are... Read More
Sounds too good to be true?It really isn't!In fact, studies... Read More
Vilfredo Pareto's Principle, or The "Pareto Principle," is more commonly... Read More
Years ago when I started in this business, it seemed... Read More
Many of us get so caught up in day-to-day pressures... Read More
Everyday, in life, we are bombarded with 101 tasks that... Read More
We all get overwhelmed from time to time, and sometimes... Read More
You can lose, damage or waste some things in life,... Read More
Women's health issues often are focused on goals to reach:... Read More
When a good friend asked me to contribute a little... Read More
All too often we can feel overwhelmed by the amount... Read More
We are all born equal! We all have the same... Read More
Time Management |