Jim Rohn wrote in his book The Five Major Pieces To The Life Puzzle, it is by an intricate design of nature that success is a condition that must be attracted and not pursued. We achieve rewards and we make progress not by our intense pursuits, but by what we become, for it is what we are that finally determines the result we attract. "To have more we must first become more" is the essence of his personal development philosophy.
Today when the lopsided model of personal development where the stress is more on techniques, the words of wisdom culled from all that have been written about success and happiness from times immemorial brings into stark contrast everything that is wrong in the personal development philosophy. The quick fixes taught by innumerable institutions reflect the growing confusion about Personality Development aimed at symptoms than any attempt on cause. It is no wonder that in the knowledge millennium when knowledge is said to be doubling every eighteen month we see more unhappiness and frustration than light of knowledge and wisdom.
The natural law is that of Character Ethic. What we are intrinsically. Success and happiness is achieved by becoming more, more of love, honesty, justice, courage, integrity, humaneness, feelings for the community, public good and for the fellow human. What we see instead is a stress on the outer personality, public image, public speaking, outward cheerfulness and pretended positive attitudes. Whatever we might be inside, we are taught to put a facade of manners, looks, gestures and language.
Imagine a situation where you meet an unreasonable customer and you put out the most positive outward expressions while you are fuming inside. It does not communicate the best of sincerity and you lose the customer anyway. On the other hand if we exercise the character ethic of being good to a fellow human being, we may try to understand his unreasonableness and show more sympathy towards his views.
When the inside feeling is one of sympathy we may even point out his unreasonableness without rancor or animosity and customer is more likely to understand our viewpoint. The character ethic being strong there would be certain equanimity and pleasantness and the customer has to respond positively to the natural and open negotiation with him.
It is not that techniques are not important. The various personal skills and techniques do have its value in bringing a system and projection of our natural personal traits more effectively. What ever our character should naturally reflect in every act of ours. Whereas being focused only on techniques will be seen as manipulative and whatever gains, will be short term and eventually be seen as failures.
Emerson has brilliantly explained the character ethic "What you are shouts so loudly in my ears that I cannot hear what you say."
R.G. Srinivasan is founder of Born to Win Forum. He is a certified trainer and 0nline marketing promotions consultant. Check out his webpage at http://venturelinks.tripod.com
affordable house cleaning Wilmette ..Do you still keep that all important 'Inner Spark Alive'?... Read More
Do you think you have an "average" or perhaps an... Read More
You have probably heard the term "IQ" many times, and... Read More
If you look back to the 70s and 80s, many... Read More
Both the worst and the best of the great achievers... Read More
Have you failed before and wished the earth could open... Read More
Create a truth and step into it There is a... Read More
Thoughts are very powerful. An intention held long and hard... Read More
Success can easily be compared to the "genie trapped in... Read More
Our brain is a marvelous creation. It receive and transmit... Read More
Along with time and money, energy is one of your... Read More
Recently, I coached a young woman whom I'll call Mary... Read More
Everyone talks about how to be successful through hard work... Read More
Have you ever had such thoughts like "I always fall... Read More
What would one initially think about someone who dropped out... Read More
(Excepted from the book The Five Major Pieces to the... Read More
The approach of a new year usually causes us to... Read More
"And when it rains on your parade, look up rather... Read More
Fighter pilots have an awesome responsibility. It takes a unique... Read More
If you have read this far, we both know you... Read More
One of the most important aspects of creating success involves... Read More
An unexamined life is not worth living ? SocratesAll too... Read More
(excerpted from The Challenge to Succeed audio series)It is a... Read More
Exercising is not one of my favorite pastimes but I... Read More
With topics in personal development ranging from goal setting to... Read More
quick home cleaning Northbrook ..We live in the information age, dominated by the development... Read More
On March 27th 2005, Oxford won the annual boat race... Read More
To make change effective, you have to BE what you... Read More
When entering second adulthood, many women will begin a journey... Read More
Work addiction is an unrestrained, unfulfillable internal demand for constant... Read More
We are repeatedly told that we should forget about unpleasant... Read More
* Perfectionism is a time waster.Strive for excellence on important... Read More
1. Open your mind to new ideas: Positive behavior change... Read More
Measure twice, cut once Just as in carpentry, making sure... Read More
Here are seven essential keys to success. Use these ideas... Read More
Temp your way to the top Want to take the... Read More
Two weeks ago we took a look at the power... Read More
1. Clear vision + Intention + Purpose... Read More
If that sounds like you, you're not alone. Everyone needs... Read More
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be... Read More
Effective listening is almost certainly the most important communication skill,... Read More
Believe in your own Divine nature Despite the varying religious... Read More
What is an ANT? An ANT is an acronym for... Read More
When you hear the words "abundance" and "prosperity", what immediately... Read More
Following are a series of questions I needed to ask... Read More
An acquaintance of mine once lamented that she was utterly... Read More
Want more success in your business or professional life? Here's... Read More
Let's say you're moving forward in your efforts to achieve... Read More
The gambling instinct is in every man or woman. All... Read More
The simple action of writing the every day grocery demonstrates... Read More
Success |