Too often we wait for the 'right time' or 'the kids to grow up' or the next vacation. But how long is that away. Often when I'm working with my clients, it's about getting clear why they are putting change off. Almost always it's the fear of the challenging consequences of making wilful change.
As Stephen Covey says in 'The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People', it's that when you pick up one end of the stick, you pick up the other end too. Consequences are the biggest cause of procrastination in our lives.
I've been reminded about a client I have recently. She came to me at the very start of my coaching career and had a vision for her life. It was clear that she was on a mission to make her mark.
Jen wanted to go places, build a major career, have the very best for her daughter, but had some clearing out to do first of all. She had issues with her partner that, all of a sudden one day, she resolved and moved on from.
She took on extended roles at her work and then, when redundancy (being let go with a payoff) was offered, she grasped it with open arms and banked most of it. She took on a little consultancy and training work and they loved her, but she needed security for a few years for her daughter.
Jen then landed a great job and a significant professional qualification - much more pay, far better prospects and the job of her dreams. Jen aspired to be Melanie Griffiths in "Working Girl" and she is living that dream. She is doing well for herself, for her daughter and for the new orgnisation she works for. Eveyone truly is a winner.
If you resonate with this, I have two questions,
"What's stopping you?"
"No, what truly is stopping you?"
It's only you, getting in your own way, blaming everyone and everything else about you. You only have one go at this life. It's for you to grasp that stick and go for it.
Jen got past those questions, for a much, much brighter future.
Martin Haworth is a Business and Management Coach. He works worldwide, mainly by phone, with people who want much more from their one life. He has hundreds of hints, tips and ideas at his website, http://www.coaching-businesses-to-success.com.
(Note to editors. Feel free to use this article, wherever you think it might be of value - it would be good if you could include a live link)
...helping you, to help your people, to help your business grow...
I succeeded. I achieved my goal. I am successful. I... Read More
I am writing this article to cement two key success... Read More
As a golfer and coach, I've been thrilled to watch... Read More
"And when it rains on your parade, look up rather... Read More
To take the online road to success is not, contrary... Read More
Nicholas Darvas, escaping his war-torn homeland, Hungary, sought refuge in... Read More
Fighter pilots have an awesome responsibility. It takes a unique... Read More
A Lifelong Learning Plan is a conscious, continuous engagement in... Read More
He was pencil thin and walked with a limp. A... Read More
Champions expect pain, endure pain, and never complain. ---UnknownAfter so... Read More
I started taking stock of my year in 2002. I... Read More
The start of a new year is a good time... Read More
Periodically re-check and refine (or redefine) your goals It's no... Read More
The best and fastest way to learn how to make... Read More
Are you on the right track?Stop for a while, look... Read More
Delegate your life If you're having problems finding the time... Read More
Noted author and self-worth teacher Eric Butterworth* says, "Poverty is... Read More
Recently, I have been riveted by the amazing reality show... Read More
Formula For SuccessThe winners in this life know the rules... Read More
About a month ago, I was hit by a car... Read More
George Burns' career could have ended as early as 1958,... Read More
I spoke to a group of salespeople in Kansas City... Read More
Everyone wants success.Some people spend their every waking moment pursuing... Read More
Visualize success, and what you'll do to reward yourself A... Read More
All too often, we push ourselves past the limits of... Read More
Crestwood limo rentals ..One of the first things most of us remember hearing... Read More
If you were to evaluate the major influences in your... Read More
We must never allow a day to pass without finding... Read More
Your personal image: It's the most important YOU asset you... Read More
There is a disquieting trend emerging among women particularly -... Read More
"You will be the same person in five years except... Read More
(excerpted from The Challenge to Succeed audio series)It is a... Read More
Hi, Jim Rohn here. This month we focus on accelerating... Read More
As a work-life and career coach, I regularly work with... Read More
Ten years ago I went into the studio and recorded... Read More
My mentor, when I was 25 years old, dropped a... Read More
Have you ever thought about how you want to live,... Read More
Fear, or negative anxiety, is the modern day bubonic plague,... Read More
"Fighting to pay the bills is hardly worth it? fight... Read More
Today I was glad that I had bothered to read... Read More
Two weeks ago we took a look at the power... Read More
Believe it or not, there is a special 3-step formula... Read More
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be... Read More
What do Sam Walton, Ray Kroc, Hilton, Marriot, Firestone, Elvis... Read More
"The mind grows by what it feeds on." J.... Read More
You teach others how to treat you by how you... Read More
"The principal purpose of business is to create a customer."... Read More
Knowing when to disconnect, shut it off, unplug, or walk... Read More
"Enthusiasm is worth any pot of cream ever offered."Can you... Read More
All of us could work on our skills in influencing... Read More
Success |